Chronicles of Love

About NOT Waiting for the Phone to Ring

A guy that I was talking to on a regular basis for the last few weeks has suddenly decided to stop calling me. That’s crappy because we were just starting to get to know each other. I’m not completely broken up about it, but the thing that gets me is that he hasn’t even called to say "I’m not really into you." or " This isn’t going to work out."

In the past, guys walked all over me because I let them. In the past, when a guy showed interest in me, I swooned and dedicated my life to him right there.

In the past, I’d be sitting here, depressed for days and going over everything I ever said to him and wondering what I did wrong. I’d search for the reason why this guy stopped calling me, thinking that it must have been my fault.

And I did do that for a few brief moments on Friday. Old habits die hard, what can I say. But then I got angry.

What kind of guy says he’s going to call you back in a bit and then doesn’t ever call you again? What kind of guy is too busy to give you a two minute call to tell you he’s really busy? He found the time to take a shit that day, didn’t he? He must have had at least a few minutes in his day.

And then I got over it because that’s not the kind of guy I want.

After thinking about it all weekend, I’ve realized another  thing. I think that starting a relationship with someone, letting it grow even a little bit and then not having the courage enough to say that it’s just not working out is pretty crappy to do to someone. If it’s not working out, it’s not. Say so. If you’ve changed your mind, say so. Don’t leave the other person hanging. My revelation came because I remembered that I did the very same thing to someone I had begun seeing in my past. I just disappeared on him. No explanation. Not even an excuse. And maybe that’s why I got so angry about this whole thing. Karma’s a bitch.

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  1. Oh, I love this post! Good for you for not sitting and dwelling on it, you’re right…it’s not the kind of person in your life who could just walk off for no reason, or not face things in an adult or mature fashion…and then looking into your past to see if you’d done it as well…I’ll tell you, it’s hard to do that! And why do we (I’m including myself here) instantly dedicate our lives to someone when they look our way? I have done that too in the past…and still struggle with it as we speak.

  2. It is really hard to look at these things. It’s been quite the climb for me.

    I’m trying to remember to keep my focus on me and where I am, instead of focusing on a guy or a very new relationship. Obviously new relationships can come and go. Maybe one will stick one day and I’ll be pleasantly surprised.

  3. Well, he did you a favour I would have to say. You are absolutely right about what kind of guy he is. Imature, disrespectful, fearful of being honest, i could go on, but that is one clue to prove to you that he is not the kind of guy you want or deserve.
    I would say this to anyone even if they weren’t my bestest buddy! 🙂
    I love you.

  4. He is not worthy of you.

    ‘nuf said 🙂

  5. I agree with Angella. Still, it sucks. I’ve been there

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