Maybe opposites don’t attract at all.
Loser says… “You can’t qualify your present based on your past or you’ll get the same stuff you’ve always received. It’s the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. If you say stuff like, I hope he’s not going to be a jerk, you’ll get a jerk. If you say I will get a man who loves me deeply and passionately, for who and what I am, that’s exactly what you’ll get. Frame it positively and absolutely in terms of the things you want… not the things you don’t want.”
I have written a list of the things that I like in a man, things that I’d like to see in my man, but I always waver and dismiss it and in fact, there’s only one or two men that I know who even fit my bill. But I’ve always looked at that list as the ultimate be-all and that I’d never get that in a million years.
When I met one guy, I was so excited. He looked like he had his shit together, good-looking, career oriented, et cetera. But in the back of my mind I think I was worried about why this great guy was single and available. In the back of my mind I thought that he must have been pretty scarred up to be single at his age. He would smile to cover up his shit. And all I saw was his smile. I was worried about meeting someone who had a bunch of baggage and that’s what I got. Oh, I know I can never compare anyone else to him and the situation I was in with him, but it scares me to think that my future relationships, friendship and otherwise might be a product of what I have had in the past.
I do want great happiness and friendship and comfort. I want someone who treats me with respect. I want someone to court me and make an effort to be with me and actually be interested in what makes me happy in life. I want someone with similar life goals. Et cetera.
If this is a circle that I have been repeating; if I have been attracting the very guy I don’t want, I’m going to now try to focus on what I DO want, not what I DON’T want.
It worked for Loser… he’s “desperately in love” and bought a ring the other day. Yes, that ring.
“If it worked for me, it can work for you. It’ll come… you deserve great things and will get them.”
But it applies even farther than that… it is paramount in everything in life. If I aim a bit higher, I can attain that goal.